Pyaar, Ishq, Love…WHAT?!

What is so bloody tempting about love stories that I can’t resist them, no matter what! Come DDLJ, DTPH, HAHK, Vivah on television and there’s no way I’m going to miss it. The most latest addition to the lot being ‘Ishaqzaade’! Oh I absolutely adore that movie. Such beautiful representation of Indian Romeo and Juliet, leaves me mesmerized every single time i watch it! All this is absolute fiction to me…i don’t know if such immense love for other being is humanly possible! I mean, is there a real Prem out there who’ll accept Poonam even after she’s burnt? I have heard of guys setting their girls on fire for dowry. Is there a Raj out there who’ll work as hard to get her Simran? I have heard of guys opting to elope rather than trying to convince the families. Is there Rahul out there who’ll wait for Pooja even after she says no? I have heard of guys killing the girls who refuse their proposal! Not trying to be pessimistic but just wondering, is that ‘forever and beyond’, ‘mills and boons’ love really possible? Ofcourse I have my mom and dad who are the most live and apt example right in front of me…a little pain to one and the other is just as worried and concerned as one would be for one’s own self! But their’s was an arranged marriage, so they had all the support and time to grow and fall in love! Okay, i have examples of love marriages in front of me where parents were against it but their live triumphed and now they are living happily with everyone’s support. And I even have friends, hopelessly in love. But that’s beyond the point, I also wonder about how can one feel this way. Yes, I am so curious about it because I have never been in love. It’s not like I don’t believe in love, that can’t be true. A maha filmy soul like me can’t stay aloof to believing in love. I do believe in love but to love just one person till such depths?? What makes one fall so hard?? I am pretty moody and a big sucker for my-time. So will I ever give up all that?? Seems unreal to me! There are no two ways about how filmy I am, so I sometimes actually wonder does love actually cause insomnia? I don’t like plucked flowers, am totally against it…will love change that? I don’t remember dates, very bad with them…will love make me memorize those?? I asked a question to someone relating to this. I asked ‘what if the other person isn’t compatible to me? What if we are poles apart?’. I loved the answer, it was ‘loves makes things perfect. Look at it this way, being poles apart can probably be the best thing that can happen, you’ll both complete each other. What’s missing in you, will be present in him and vice versa’. How cute an answer is that now! But the reality still is to be known and I am just as curious 😛

Where are we heading to?

We should really learn to empathize, instead all we do is sympathize! If we knew to empathize, we wouldn’t hurt others. Not so obviously atleast, because we would know how they would feel. What’s priority for us these days is to come clean or wash your hands off the matter or have your say in the matter or opine on the matter and bamm! your duty is over. How the other person feels, what are the repercussions of the matter, repercussions of your opinion or statement, no one bothers about that. Would such stupid statements come from the leaders or God-men if they could empathize? No! They just blurt their mind out. You are a chosen representative, someone people follow or even idealize and these very people are totally insensitive towards us. Would any loser rape a girl if he could empathize? No! Empathy is lost!
We have become so selfish that we don’t even want to think what others would feel! Or so lost are we in ourselves that the other person’s view, feelings, condition are mundane to us.
We, knowing how our mother would feel, say harsh things to her. Very easily hurt our friends and dear ones without realising the wound our actions and words would leave. We, who can’t empathize with whom we claim to love, are claiming that we are sad for someone we didn’t know? Sympathy, that’s all it is. And it is no solution!